The Plusses of Scrapes and Bruises

Written by Julie Azzam on .


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I recently finished reading Christine Gross-Loh’s Parenting without Borders: Surprising Lessons Parents around the World Can Teach Us. The book is chock-a-block full of all sorts of parenting issues. This book looks at the American style of parenting from the outside, and contrasts it with how people in other parts of the world parent. From infant sleep to “picky” toddler eating habits; from teenage boundary testing to raising resilient kids, this book takes it all on.

It’s been a few weeks now since I finished the book, but one thing has stayed on my mind: the "helicopter parent" who hovers over his or her child at all times.

Gross-Loh has a fascinating discussion of how American parents tend to be (surprise, surprise!) helicopter parents, while Japanese, European, and Scandinavian parents tend to believe that scrapes, bruises, and yes, even fights, are necessary parts of childhood.


Julie Azzam is the mother of two young children and an ardent fan of children's literature, especially picture books. She teaches literature at the University of Pittsburgh. Her posts on Great Gardening Reads, the Easter Bunny and Back to School Books were also featured on PlayGround.


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